Millennial Parents Feeling 'Frustrated'
and 'Abandoned' by Boomer Grandparents
Red State,
by
Ward Clark
Original Article
Posted By: Imright,
12/3/2023 4:52:31 PM
Is it too much to ask parents to be responsible for their children? They made the choice, after all, to bring those kids into the world. They should, and in a sane world would, accept the responsibilities of parenthood.But it seems some of the Millennial parents are becoming whiny because the Boomer grandparents aren't helping them raise their kids, instead deciding to pursue an actual retirement.
Some millennial parents say they feel "abandoned" by their baby boomer parents, who've chosen to travel in their retirement, rather than stay home
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Reply 1 - Posted by:
downnout 12/3/2023 5:13:09 PM (No. 1609866)
Spoiled brats.
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Reply 2 - Posted by:
jalo1951 12/3/2023 5:23:19 PM (No. 1609874)
Grow up. They are YOUR kids, you deal with it. I did not expect my mother or my in-laws to raise my son. And they didn't.
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Reply 3 - Posted by:
pros7767 12/3/2023 6:07:52 PM (No. 1609891)
I come from a different perspective. My husband and I both worked. Our kids went to day care but my Dad also helped us. His relationship with our children was magical! He introduced them to fishing, woodworking, and he, a non-athlete, learned to throw a lacrosse ball, play Horse in basketball, Chutes and Ladders and Candyland.
Our children worshipped the ground he walked on! They were blessed by his presence and influence in their lives. I suspect many of these millennials may have had the same experience and thought their parents would follow suit.
We don't have grandkids yet but I suspect we'll be moving back north when they do get pregnant. My husband can't wait to be like our kids' Grandpa! Just saying, there is another perspective to this. I miss my Dad and they miss their Grandpa!
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Reply 4 - Posted by:
red1066 12/3/2023 6:12:09 PM (No. 1609894)
Asking your parents to watch the kids once in a while is one thing, but to expect them to become a second set of parents for your kids to way too much. Grandparents enjoy watching and going out with their grandchildren, but not all the time.
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Reply 5 - Posted by:
DVC 12/3/2023 6:42:48 PM (No. 1609920)
Grow up.
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Reply 6 - Posted by:
OhioNick 12/3/2023 6:47:58 PM (No. 1609926)
The article didn't mention the race of the complainers, but in the closest city to me, the local liberal paper posted a very troubling statistic: 50-percent of children in that city were being raised by their grandmothers.
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Reply 7 - Posted by:
Daisymay 12/3/2023 7:25:24 PM (No. 1609935)
Times have changed. People are retiring earlier, some in their 50's!! I live in a 55 and Over Community! When we moved here 20 years ago there were 30,000
people here. Now there are150,000. They are playing Pickleball, swimming, golfing, and generally having a great life! Maybe some moved here so they would't have to spend their retirement raising their Grandchildren! I was a Stay at home mom lf 3 kids.If moms would stay home to raise their family instead of working they wouldn't need grandparents help! You might not have a new car every two years or take take the Family to Disney if you don't have two incomes, but you are raising your own Children! It's a choice!
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Reply 8 - Posted by:
Scout Finch 12/3/2023 7:54:02 PM (No. 1609942)
I wish my son and his wife would ask more of me. They act like I’m not smart enough or strong enough to watch my only granddaughter (1 yr old).
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Reply 9 - Posted by:
PostAway 12/3/2023 8:56:48 PM (No. 1609961)
These kind of articles are meant to provoke. The generation raising children now includes the same people who worked miracles taking care of their kids, running households and holding down jobs during COVID. Hats off to them. They are the same generation that includes the young adults who saw 9/11 occur and then rushed to military recruitment offices and signed up to serve and protect. Yes, there are deadbeats and users. There always have been in every generation. If grandparents don’t want to watch their grandchildren, and yes, it can be tedious and frustrating to do so, then just say no and be done with it. But there’s no harm in asking.
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Reply 10 - Posted by:
BarryNo 12/3/2023 9:32:56 PM (No. 1609974)
You've constantly neared and belittled them. What do you expect?
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Reply 11 - Posted by:
Lawsy0 12/4/2023 2:37:13 AM (No. 1610064)
When someone told my mom her grandson was spoiled, she replied, "Not true, all teenagers smell like that!" Writer Clark must have quite a mad-on for some relative or in-law.
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Reply 12 - Posted by:
Strike3 12/4/2023 7:47:48 AM (No. 1610173)
Sadly, the Boomer Generation were the last people in this country to work hard, do better financially than their parents by their own efforts and not depend on mom and dad to do anything more than host the occasional Sunday dinner. Our children now expect babysitting, financial help, bailouts from credit problems, free accomodations in our basement when relationships fail, etc. I have learned to use the word "No" far more often than I like but it's a right that I have earned.
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I became a paw paw 30 days ago and will meet our granddaughter in a couple of weeks. We live far away from our kids so this is reasonable. Our job is to be the grandparents....help teach the child the wonders of the world and to love/support her family. We've been looking forward to this since my wife and I were on the hot seat as parents. We don't mind a few dirty diapers now and then. But our best contribution is to be there for their family, just as my parents were for my wife and I when my granddaughter's mom was a month old. The cycle continues.
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