Why Are Women Unhappy
American Greatness,
by
Dan Gelernter
Original Article
Posted By: Beardo,
4/20/2022 12:44:15 PM
A little over a decade ago, two researchers at Wharton published a paper showing that, despite women’s increasing work and educational opportunities, their self-reported happiness was in steady decline. Back in 1970, women were on average happier than men; they are now less happy than men.
Broadly, since 1970, everyone has gotten more miserable. But the decline in women’s overall happiness has outpaced men’s, and the happiness curve inverted sometime in the early 1990s. The paper also documents increasing anxiety and neuroticism, as well as decreasing social cohesion among women.
Reply 1 - Posted by:
walcb 4/20/2022 12:56:47 PM (No. 1133466)
Women in general are more empathetic, caring, compassionate and liberal than men. I think more women are realizing there is a limit to this mental state and are realizing that the philosophy that has been indoctrinated in them is flawed and this awakening becomes disheartening and disturbing, disrupting their "happiness".
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Reply 2 - Posted by:
Highlander 4/20/2022 1:00:25 PM (No. 1133468)
I don’t think today’s women, in general, are EVER truly happy overall. There is so much conflicting information thrown at them daily from toddlerhood to adulthood; info about their roles at home, work, and play, from the left and from the right. The happy, serene woman is an exception to the norm.
Just my observation.
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Reply 3 - Posted by:
GustoGrabber 4/20/2022 1:02:31 PM (No. 1133469)
Lack of masculinity among those males raised not to be masculine.
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Reply 4 - Posted by:
SALady 4/20/2022 1:03:09 PM (No. 1133471)
God did not create women to be equal to men. It's that simple. Men are superior in some ways, while we are superior in other ways. But we have specific things we were designed by God to do. The more women fight against those things we were designed to do, like being mothers and taking care of our own children, the more miserable so many women are these days.
I was blessed with a wonderful husband who fully supported me when I wanted to stay home and raise my children. Our children always knew how loved they were, and have all grown to be amazing adults. There has never been a moment of my adult life that I have been anything but happy and content, because I always knew that I was following the path that God had planned for me in my life.
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Reply 5 - Posted by:
Edgelady 4/20/2022 1:04:54 PM (No. 1133472)
Happiness is a choice.
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Reply 6 - Posted by:
jalo1951 4/20/2022 1:07:34 PM (No. 1133474)
Everyone is different and this certainly does not speak for everyone. But I am an older working woman. I will be 71 this coming summer. My husband also works. For us the difference is I go to work and then I come home to work. He goes to work and then comes home. Big difference. I was never happier than when I was home with my son for the first six years of his life. Not all of us are doctors, lawyers or CEOs. Just ordinary people who feel overwhelmed with too much to do and often we do it alone. Plus now I worry about the economy, inflation, food shortages, crime and all the rest. Too often we think of everyone else but ourselves and we are stressed. I will always believe it is easier being the man of the house than the woman of the house. I'm not so sure I care about being "happy" at this stage of my life. Content and secure are high on my list.
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Reply 7 - Posted by:
Nimby 4/20/2022 1:11:19 PM (No. 1133476)
Ask the same women who screamed "Resist" and protested against Trump, who burned and looted the stores in the name of BLM and equal justice, and voted for this clown show administration!!
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Reply 8 - Posted by:
JunkYardDog 4/20/2022 1:11:20 PM (No. 1133477)
Women are unhappy because....society is trying to to have them believe in things and have goals that are incompatible with them. Things like calling abortion women's healthcare. Things like having a career is more important than being a mother. Things like making them believe that men are the cause of their misery when they are doing it to themselves. Not every woman was meant to be a mother, but being given a gift like the power to create and gestate a fetus within yourself to create a life....women need LOVE. The love of a husband/partner. The love of a child, Without love, women (and men) are just empty.
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Reply 9 - Posted by:
bpl40 4/20/2022 1:18:19 PM (No. 1133482)
Human culture has accepted men and women as being 'equal'. But nature refuses to accept them as being identical. That attempt by modern society is putting too much and unnatural pressure on women - especially educated and informed women. I believe nature intended the male and female roles to be equivalent. Each era, each generation finding defining its own framework. In the doomed attempt to make men and women identical we have lost sight of this anthropological truth.
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Reply 10 - Posted by:
Daisymay 4/20/2022 1:23:47 PM (No. 1133486)
I'm closing in on 81 next month. I raised my children during the Donna Reed and Ozzie and Harriet days. I was a "stay at home Mom". I loved keeping my Home in order. I loved to cook and Bake and I also enjoyed sewing and Crafts. Do you ever hear women today talking about Crafts? Nope! They don't have time! My daughter uses that line over and over! It's work, come home and fix dinner, throw in a few loads of laundry, watch TV for a hour before falling asleep on the Couch. The next day, repeat! I think women today are missing a lot by not staying home and raising their Children themselves. I did go to work after my children were out of the House, and I enjoyed it....sometimes. It lasted for a few years and then we decided I would stay home again and take care of things that Hubby and I didn't want to do on our weekends! It was nice to be able to use his free weekend to do things together (grocery shopping doesn't count)! I found I was much happier being my own Boss! Hubby loved the Baked Treats that had disappeared during my Working years! We both enjoyed a Clean House and not having to do Laundry and errands on our weekends. Today, Life is a Rat Race for Young Couples. If only they could figure out that Vacations, Two NEW Cars and Other Luxuries are things they could give up in order for Mom to stay home and raise the Kids. The Luxuries will come after the Kids leave home! It's worth the wait!
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Reply 11 - Posted by:
Quigley 4/20/2022 1:26:08 PM (No. 1133488)
#6 makes an interesting point about men not wanting to do housework. I don’t. I know that’s a problem. It’s not a 100% male/female issue since every individual has a different threshold of fastidiousness/slovenliness.
Maybe a two income house should spend more on a maid.
But i do think that life is difficult with all that it takes to keep body and soul together. And i think the media and the politicians want to promise that life is hard because of somebody else and that they will fix that somebody else. I think this ploy has been used on women and blacks as a promise for a life that doesn’t exist.
I watched a youtube channel called “girl says what!?” several years ago and she laid out her research on the historical balance that has existed between the sexes both legally and economic and beyond. I thought it quite eye opening. It requires about 6+ hours of listening/watching to get a critical mass of information and several of the videos are on separate matters so it could take more depending on what you happen to choose.
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Reply 12 - Posted by:
Pinkpanther 4/20/2022 1:29:24 PM (No. 1133491)
Going against God’s natural law never makes you happy. God intended for women to be the caregivers of the home and children while men are supposed to be the protectors and providers. Both men and women were also made to be monogamous and wait until marriage to have sex, this protects women and children. Women have far more to lose in a sexual relationship than a man as the hormones excreted during sex are powerful bonding ones. The more partners a woman has the less of an ability she has to bond. Compound that with pumping her body with a carcinogenic chemical that goes against her biological functions (birth control) and/or killing her own offspring and none of that brings happiness. Feminism is squarely to blame on this because women have been lied to that we need to be just like men when we are not designed to be. Birth control and abortion are tools that allow men to use women and walk away Scott free. Now our young women are being groomed at a young age to reject her created purpose and be trans, bi or lesbian.
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Reply 13 - Posted by:
sanspeur 4/20/2022 1:44:20 PM (No. 1133502)
, if gov’t cut taxes to a non confiscatory rate there would be more choice for families . A two income family won’t be an necessity .
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Reply 14 - Posted by:
red1066 4/20/2022 1:46:17 PM (No. 1133505)
Men don't clean the house? What BS. I've been married for 38 years, and I can count on one hand the number of times my wife has cleaned the house and bathrooms. That was when I spent a month or so training for a new job in Ann Arbor and I wasn't home. My schedule now is the house is cleaned every Wed. including three bathrooms.
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Reply 15 - Posted by:
raphaela 4/20/2022 2:04:23 PM (No. 1133514)
I worked during my son's growing up years. I hated it. I never had a career (and didn't want one). I had a job. It's not that I minded working. I liked the office atmosphere and team work. But I finally quit work permanently in 2015. We have hinked along money-wise but that was okay. I've learned more about gardening, baking, cooking and house keeping than I was able to learn during my working years. One other benefit is that now I have one boss: my husband. Before it was my husband and however many people I reported to at my jobs. I have also learned to crochet and I found I like to draw and paint. Who has time for that when they work a 40+ hours a week job? As for my husband, no he doesn't help with housework. He's one of those who will do the chores grudgingly if at all. Since I don't like to nag I just get on with it myself. I'd rather have his affection than his exasperation. I think younger women are burnt out and hence the unhappiness. God did not intend us to be Super Woman. Just my two cents.
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Reply 16 - Posted by:
earlybird 4/20/2022 2:11:49 PM (No. 1133522)
I don’t believe one can generalize about “women” anymore than one can generalize about “men” - though we know that many men try to do the former.
Happiness is an individual thing. No broad brush will work.
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Reply 17 - Posted by:
harleynyc 4/20/2022 2:15:57 PM (No. 1133525)
Before reading the article, 1. feminism, 2. prescription drugs, and 3. porn, would come to mind.
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Reply 18 - Posted by:
SweetPea3 4/20/2022 2:18:03 PM (No. 1133527)
LIEberal women are the unhappy ones. Conservative women are much happier.
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Ever since Rosie the riveter stuck her torch in, its been messed up. I would of loved to be a homemaker or farmers wife all my life. But, we were forced into the job market by high prices and the feminists
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Reply 20 - Posted by:
Trump'sCousin 4/20/2022 2:26:19 PM (No. 1133535)
Woman is an earned title, not granted by genitalia. It is bestowed on those who have matured into serious adults. Responsible, virtuous, of good character.
We are born male and female, as are plants and animals. The achievement of being called a man or woman is earned by character and deeds.
The females and males I know are always unhappy about something. Perpetually aggrieved and offended. They think with their emotions or genitals, have no brains, spine or guts. They lack intestinal fortitude. They never mature to adulthood no matter their physiological age. They spend their lives looking for brrasts on an ant and are naturally disappointed. They refuse to take responsibility for their bad choices and blame everyone around them for their rotten lives.
They should neither vote nor breed.
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Reply 21 - Posted by:
DVC 4/20/2022 2:27:06 PM (No. 1133538)
The screetching, violent witches who dress in black and threaten people as antifa thugs are clearly not happy at all.
And I see significant numbers of tremendously overweight young women, many covered in ugly tattoos, who dress in sweat pants and massively oversized shirts, with dirty, unkempt hair out in the world. I tend to doubt that they are attracting much attention from men, even the soy boys or sloppy fat boys who are increasingly common. They don't seem happy, or interested in putting on a good appearance in public.
I'm really not sure what to think about them. Young women in my time were generally pretty interested in looking good, dressing well and taking care of their hair. I have several nieces who do dress well, and are not overweight, keep themselves nice and pretty. And they are married, two of three with children. I am not sure what to make of these ultra sloppy and overweight young women. Are they dressed badly and do they overeat because they are unhappy or are they unhappy because they dress badly and overeat? Chicken - egg? I'm not sure many men have EVER understood a whole lot about women, so I guess my confusion may be pretty normal. I feel kind of sorry for the unhappy ones, but they make their own choices.
Has all this feminism and equality stuff just driven a certain portion of them crazy so that they don't know what they want to do in life? I see many young women who are raising children, happy and married, but there are a lot who seem lost and directionless, too. And then there are the squads of hateful, violent antifa types.
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Reply 22 - Posted by:
Corndoggies 4/20/2022 2:34:55 PM (No. 1133546)
I think 5 and I are on the same page. I think society has trained us to think of we’re not “happy” 24/7, there’s something wrong with our lives. All my girls, both natural and bonus, take some form of anxiety pill. That is totally absurd. I don’t know how happy I am and don’t really care. I’m not a worrier and have learned to trust in God that I’ll be ok. I know whatever challenge I face in earth is temporary. I’m 62 and have learned things work themselves out eventually and worrying is a waste of time. Does that make me “happy?”
I get joy from my family and pets. Those little moments of joy are what keeps me going. A beautiful sunset calms the soul. It really is the little things in life that make it worth living.
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Reply 23 - Posted by:
stablemoney 4/20/2022 2:39:32 PM (No. 1133549)
I have never know what women think, and doubt 2 researchers do.
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Reply 24 - Posted by:
Trump'sCousin 4/20/2022 2:44:26 PM (No. 1133562)
My husband and I were not blessed with children. That said, we are still a family and very traditional at that.
In our home the policy is - you live here, you work here. We both wired full time outside the home. Chores were split. All chores. We keep our home and property beautifully. It gives us great satisfaction to share the yoke of responsibility and the rewards thereof.
If you live here, you work here.
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Reply 25 - Posted by:
deerejon 4/20/2022 3:08:32 PM (No. 1133588)
How can Men and women both be Happy nowadays the way things are in our country and the confilcks in the world.our country has gone to crap,Prices for everything is out of control,A nutcase President causing all of our destruction,along with countless other crisis's.Tell me what is there to be Happy about.
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Reply 26 - Posted by:
clayusmcret 4/20/2022 3:30:09 PM (No. 1133602)
Ladies, we tried to tell you. Working outside the home sucks. Those days you wanted us off and we said the boss said no? He really said no. You wanted us to take the kids to the doctor and we said we couldn't get off early? We were serious.....and now you know it because you live it. Life wasn't a bed of roses for you, but now you have ours.....and it sucks. Oh, and those feminists you were following? They got rich and quit working. Don't fret, now the house budget is as much your responsibility to meet as is ours.
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Reply 27 - Posted by:
bgarrett 4/20/2022 4:24:54 PM (No. 1133624)
Women think that 83% of men are unacceptable as husbands or boyfriends. American women want something that doesnt exist
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Reply 28 - Posted by:
Strike3 4/20/2022 4:58:53 PM (No. 1133650)
I don't remember women ever being happy and I've been around a while. Once you paint yourself as a victim you never recover. Look at today's blacks. There is ability and talent out there but you have to make it work on your own and not demand that somebody else does it for you.
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Reply 29 - Posted by:
columba 4/20/2022 5:29:22 PM (No. 1133678)
It is an admitted fact that the Media slants all news toward women so that they will feel vulnerable all of the time. People who see themselves a vulnerable are not happy.
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Reply 30 - Posted by:
janjan 4/20/2022 6:25:50 PM (No. 1133717)
Every situation and person are different. Attributing women’s ‘unhappiness’ to the fact that they are not devoting their lives to housework is laughable nonsense. You are responsible for your own happiness. Every day of life is not joyful. You do not truly get that until you’re too old for it to matter. Stop being so self involved and enjoy what comes to you. Life is short.
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Reply 31 - Posted by:
udanja99 4/20/2022 6:55:58 PM (No. 1133727)
Too many people have no clue that happiness must come from within yourself. They think that the right person or the right home or the right car or a lot of money or the amassing of possessions will make them happy. But it doesn’t work that way. You have to find and make your own happiness.
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Reply 32 - Posted by:
Faithfully 4/20/2022 7:58:14 PM (No. 1133755)
Some won't like this but my observation of working women is that they run out of steam around menopause. Men, on the other hand, peak at middle age. Men who are laid off at that age tend to bounce back. Women tend to fall apart because their work was their family.
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Reply 33 - Posted by:
Italiano 4/20/2022 8:08:17 PM (No. 1133764)
I'm biased, but it seems like leftist women seem to be the most unhappy, not to mention the most vicious and incoherent. Which is perhaps understandable when the men in their lives tend to be Keith Olbermann, Adam Schiff or straight versions of Pete Buttigeig.
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Reply 34 - Posted by:
pensom2 4/20/2022 9:19:16 PM (No. 1133829)
Many a decent young man comes into a marriage thinking that he can accomplish anything if he tries hard enough and works at it long enough. It may take years for such a man to resign himself to the realization that the day-to-day level of contentment of the woman in his life may well be controlled as much by hormone fluctuations as by how he treats her. I acknowledge this may apply neither to all men nor to all women.
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Reply 35 - Posted by:
chefrandy 4/20/2022 9:31:25 PM (No. 1133842)
Having been married three times, I know nothing about women but am an expert on mothers in law. Bottom line is that people are responsible for their own happiness, both sexes. As several noted above, happiness is never a 24/7 thing but the inability to find happiness in anything is troublesome. Women's magazines and mass media/commercials form the basis in many younger women with much mis-information about having it all--wonderful career, glamorous social life, highly compatible spouse and over achieving children. Happiness is where you find it, start in the mirror.
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Reply 36 - Posted by:
ussjimmycarter 4/20/2022 9:38:23 PM (No. 1133846)
Know why you never buy your wife a watch? There is a clock on the stove!
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Reply 37 - Posted by:
broken01 4/21/2022 8:23:36 AM (No. 1134144)
How can women be happy when leftist democrats are telling them to suck it up and like the fact that men dressing up as them are actually women. While basically erasing them in things like college sports and having female Supreme Court nominees unable to define what they are. If I was a woman I'd be more than unhappy I'd be hopping mad.
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Reply 38 - Posted by:
Talk2 4/21/2022 11:14:20 AM (No. 1134315)
I've been married to the same wonderful woman for 63 years. She has taken care of our home for all that time. Before we were married she worked in a job she enjoyed and when she had our first son she left it behind for the huge and extremely important job of being a stay at home Mother and homemaker. Oh, she heard the comments about how unfulfilled she must be not holding a job outside the home. OMG, there is no job more important than providing a safe haven for children and a place where love comes before money. I believe every husband lives to come home at the end of the day to share with wife and children. My wife made it possible and I pray we get to share many more years together.
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