The Surprising
Benefits of Talking to Strangers
Atlantic,
by
Joe Keohane
Original Article
Posted By: GustoGrabber,
8/5/2021 5:54:29 AM
Nic spent most of her childhood avoiding people. She was raised by a volatile father and a mother who transferred much of the trauma she’d experienced onto her daughter. The combination left Nic fearful and isolated. “My primitive brain was programmed to be afraid of everybody, because everybody’s evil and they’re gonna hurt you,” she told me. (Nic asked to be referred to by only her first name to protect her privacy.)
Nic’s fear isn’t uncommon in a country where valid lessons about “stranger danger” can cast all people you don’t know as threats to be feared, but she recognized it was unhealthy
Reply 1 - Posted by:
F15 Gork 8/5/2021 6:58:26 AM (No. 868622)
Good liberals.....afraid of everything.
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Reply 2 - Posted by:
skacmar 8/5/2021 7:12:07 AM (No. 868629)
Stranger danger has always driven me crazy! Watching mothers cower in fear as I pass their kids in a store or park gets annoying. Its even worse when they call ther kids to them due to my mere presence. I understand wanting to protect your kids. But many people go overboard with the fear that every man us a kidnapper pedophile. Later as adults, they don't know how to converse with people.
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Reply 3 - Posted by:
skacmar 8/5/2021 7:15:06 AM (No. 868631)
You never know who you will meet when you start talking with a stranger. You can be meeting a life long friend or a great business contact. Talking with others makes life much more interesting and fun.
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Reply 4 - Posted by:
AltaD 8/5/2021 8:26:21 AM (No. 868697)
FTA: In cities especially, people tend to treat strangers as obstacles, Schroeder said, so we don’t talk with them;
This cliché doesn't fit my life in a big city. Maybe it's just me, maybe I have a "safe face", but I've had strangers strike up conservations with me on the L, at bus stops, waiting in long checkout lines, you name it. City-folk aren't as cold and closed off as people think we are.
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Reply 5 - Posted by:
sanspeur 8/5/2021 8:58:58 AM (No. 868734)
#4 , spot on ! Living in a ginormous city, i know people are more open and interacting than small towns .It’s the fearful small minded folk who are afraid of their own judgement..they donMt trust themselves enough to choose whom to chat with , or how to handle a scenario if it goes awry .. Mostly it’s experience .. And boy our school kids lost that this year ..
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Reply 6 - Posted by:
Laotzu 8/5/2021 9:16:08 AM (No. 868760)
Orwellian Cultural Appropriation (OCA)
The Millenial generation pretends that doing something that's been done for generations is new, smart and clever, and consequently makes them smart and clever. It's usually something that's ebbed in recent history because of Progressive programs or values, which always disregard foreseeable consequences.
Add to the list with -- the small house phenomenon (downsizing), travel, "diversity", private charitable acts . . . and on and on.
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Reply 7 - Posted by:
LC Chihuahua 8/5/2021 9:33:09 AM (No. 868788)
Mixed feelings about this.
We hear the horror stories. Children being abducted by some stranger searching for his puppy or kitten. Travelers breaking down on highways, and the person that stops murders them or the person they go to for help murders them. These things definitely do happen.
Flip side, twice when I was mugged people came to my aid when I yelled for help. Found out how many people walked around with makeshift weapons 'just in case'. One person was armed with a footlong wrench. Another had a chain wrapped around his fist.
One way I found strangers walking up to me and talking to me was when I wore Pittsburgh Steeler gear. A shirt or a jacket or a cap. Strangers talked to me. Any age any race either gender. It was like wearing gang colors without any down side.
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Reply 8 - Posted by:
BarryNo 8/5/2021 9:55:11 AM (No. 868810)
Headline Correction: the unsurprising results of talking AT strangers.
Its a liberal thing.
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Reply 9 - Posted by:
red1066 8/5/2021 10:02:49 AM (No. 868819)
Computers and social media have made it worse. There's no contact with another human being it a stranger or not. I was afraid to talk to strangers when I was little, but grew out of it. I learned to talk to people like I've known them for years. It immediately makes the short time we are together much more enjoyable, and the short get together usually ends with us laughing.
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Reply 10 - Posted by:
hope27 8/5/2021 11:17:47 AM (No. 868896)
I am so grateful to have received this superpower from my father. He talked to everyone in the same approachable and kind manner, from ceo's to gas station attendants. I consider myself a social introvert and this article was a pleasant start to my day. A seasoned proponent of talking to strangers, I have had amazing moments with strangers. Just yesterday was introduced to Brazilian João Gilberto while hunting for CDs and speaking with another cd hunter at Goodwill. Amazing interaction. Buying the book. For those starting, within one second, you will be able to tell if you have a Karen - the tell is in the eyes. Feel sorry for those addicted to technology-they can barely grunt.
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Reply 11 - Posted by:
Ja47646 8/5/2021 12:00:57 PM (No. 868928)
I am a gregarious extrovert. My father was too. I have a great time talking to whoever I meet wherever I am. It makes my day to often meet ‘kindred spirits’
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Reply 12 - Posted by:
skacmar 8/5/2021 12:03:59 PM (No. 868930)
Take your face out of your phone screen for a few moments and look up. You will see a new world of people and things that are passing you by.
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