When Your Family Members Cut Off Contact
with You
American Thinker,
by
Nara Crowley
Original Article
Posted By: DW626,
10/22/2022 4:57:10 PM
I was disowned by three close members of my family — two without explanation — and the pain of unbearable loss prompted my research. Hopefully, I can provide some understanding to many who are also experiencing this unusual attack on family and friends.(Snip) For at least 2,600 years, the family unit was intact until the woke rewrote the meaning of family and true friendship. In a family relationship, the bonding, particularly with children, is profound.
Reply 1 - Posted by:
Catherine 10/22/2022 5:08:16 PM (No. 1311660)
Sometimes family members push the bar too far and you can't live with it. That's the best time to cut ties and don't feel guilty. It happens. I'd have bet my life it would never happen to me, but it did.You just have to realize there are some things you can't fix, and other people are one of those things.
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Reply 2 - Posted by:
TJ54 10/22/2022 5:27:25 PM (No. 1311663)
Most of the folks who cut you off are leftwing loons
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Reply 3 - Posted by:
MMC 10/22/2022 5:33:26 PM (No. 1311665)
Dear Ldot Family- just know, if biology family distances themselves from you/ there are many in this community that would step in and be family to you.. we do live in the Brown Shirted times of 1939 all over again..
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Reply 4 - Posted by:
zephyrgirl 10/22/2022 5:42:13 PM (No. 1311670)
I know from experience that life can be better when some relatives aren't speaking to you. Life goes on. They'll either come around or they won't.
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Reply 5 - Posted by:
columba 10/22/2022 5:46:11 PM (No. 1311671)
The family was begun by none other than God. You will win.
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Reply 6 - Posted by:
Californian 10/22/2022 6:04:06 PM (No. 1311679)
Dropping family over politics is ridiculous. At least when my mother's family blew apart it was deeply personal and based on the very serious wrongs two of them committed against each other and others in the blast radius.
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Reply 7 - Posted by:
bad-hair 10/22/2022 6:10:52 PM (No. 1311682)
This is (of course) all about politics.
If you can hang on to half of your family in spite of politics you are doing OK
Lost a daughter, gained a son.
Lost a sister, gained a sister
I'm not counting.
My phone rings, I'm on it.
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Reply 8 - Posted by:
bad-hair 10/22/2022 6:15:27 PM (No. 1311684)
PS
forgot to mention
Politics and the politicians have NOTHING to do with it.
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Reply 9 - Posted by:
Newtsche 10/22/2022 6:28:33 PM (No. 1311685)
We don't like them, that's for sure, but they really, really hate us. It's a world view they need to be who they are. Dehumanizing the opposition is a strictly leftist necessity.
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Reply 10 - Posted by:
Trump'sCousin 10/22/2022 6:29:14 PM (No. 1311686)
Poster 6...
I've dropped many from my life family and friends.
It is no longer a political issue.
It's a moral issue.
Do the right thing and don't look back.
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Reply 11 - Posted by:
bad-hair 10/22/2022 6:34:48 PM (No. 1311688)
Cut off ?
They don't call or they don't answer ???
If they don't answer, Their problem NOY YOURS.
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Reply 12 - Posted by:
chumley 10/22/2022 6:34:52 PM (No. 1311689)
When I left home it was 15 years before I would contact a sibling again. I didnt feel like I was missing out on anything, as I got pretty sick of them growing up and life without them was better.
I'm still uncomfortable in their presence, as we really have nothing in common except the parents. I visit every few years out of obligation, but I'd rather go to a beach.
One is a lib, one conservative and three I dont know what they are.
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Reply 13 - Posted by:
Zeek Wolfe 10/22/2022 7:07:49 PM (No. 1311696)
The modern Democrat party fulfills the definition of "Communism." The Party is hard-working to make it come true in America. Only people who hate America want this. If a family member subscribes to this vileness, then I will disown them.
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Reply 14 - Posted by:
FormerDem 10/22/2022 7:10:04 PM (No. 1311697)
If I understand right, kindness and respect for brothers and sisters is required by "Honor thy father and thy mother" - this might be in the Catechism? Disagreeing is fine, but disrespect and rejection are prohbiited by the commandment (I think).
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Reply 15 - Posted by:
LC Chihuahua 10/22/2022 7:10:34 PM (No. 1311698)
I haven't cutoff contact with anyone and vice versa. I do limit what I say to some people. Bring up politics, get a lecture. That's the way it is with some people. One person in particular though, only talk on the phone a few times a year and go years without seeing each other. This is close family. So be it. We never severed contact. We just stopped talking frequently. Better that way. Trying to hash things out won't help. They have their views, and I have mine. Neither of us will change.
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Reply 16 - Posted by:
GoodDeal 10/22/2022 7:12:14 PM (No. 1311699)
I was dating a woman who was a liberal and I was a conservative. The relationship was as good as it could get. It lasted four years. We agreed to disagree and not talk about politics to keep the relationship happy. I voted for Trump, and she and her family voted for Hillary. Because I voted for Trump, her family decided to kick me out of the family and I was blacklisted from any and all family gatherings and get-togethers. I broke up with her soon after that.
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Reply 17 - Posted by:
davew 10/22/2022 7:38:54 PM (No. 1311706)
People mistakenly confuse opinion with knowledge and become emotionally attached to their opinions. Their identity and self-esteem hinges on a fragile set of noisy data, cognitive biases, bad education, and tribal myths. The worst thing that can happen to someone is to have their fragile opinions shaken by contradictory evidence. They are incapable of thinking, "I could be wrong".
People who attain wisdom must first recognize this tendency in themselves. They can then explore how other people might disagree with them without having to win every argument or having their feelings hurt.
If family members or friends or fellow citizens can't agree with your opinions it doesn't really matter. The truth of your life is all that matters in the end. This is the message of the stoic philosophers.
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Reply 18 - Posted by:
Sully 10/22/2022 7:59:36 PM (No. 1311715)
Surprised at some of the comments! I have had to have 2 recent conversations with family. Both of them started like this:
"I love you and you love me. And we will Never be estranged. Never. It will not happen. That's the only thing we absolutely have to agree on."
The rest of the conversation proceeds.
Now, I am blessed that my people have some closeness and are very honest and rational. Not every family is that way. I know.
Mostly people want to be heard. If you will listen, they will respect that and be able to "compartmentalize," even if they don't agree with you. I compartmentalize too. Happily.
If my world included only likeminded people, it will be a very small world.
Plus, I come to Lucianne for likeminded people. LOL.
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Reply 19 - Posted by:
smcchk 10/22/2022 8:47:10 PM (No. 1311744)
Adult kids have been terrible to parents these last few elections. Lots of lectures and criticism for any Trump voters. Only the forbearance of the parents have kept it from total estrangement. Yet, there is an eerie silence from these “kids” now that things aren’t working out so well.
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God gives you your relatives. Be thankful you can pick your friends.
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Reply 21 - Posted by:
Faithfully 10/22/2022 9:23:32 PM (No. 1311759)
#16 This was foretold. Stick to your guns. They might come around.
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Reply 22 - Posted by:
Faithfully 10/22/2022 9:27:42 PM (No. 1311762)
When individual members of a large family are a bad influence on the minds of your children you cut them . No explanation necessary.
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Reply 23 - Posted by:
GirlwithaCurl 10/23/2022 12:54:43 AM (No. 1311861)
You can pick your friends, but you're stuck with your family.
It would be nice to have a close-knit family, but our mother died of cancer when we were in our 20's, and it stung each of us pretty bad. The mother is usually why the kids go home for the holidays. We didn't have her to go home to, so we grew apart.
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I am one of those parents who has an adult child who has completely cut us off. I know many more parents in the same situation. I myself put boundaries on how much contact I had with one of my parents, but would have never refused to answer his phone call or respond to him.
I call this the "Friends" generation. They grew up watching Friends and on that show their family was their friend group. They moaned of the misery if any parent was coming for a visit, or wanted them to come visit.
The only good news is that this might be an indication that we are in "the last days".
"But know this, that in the last days perilous times will come: For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to PARENTS, unthankful, unholy, unloving, unforgiving, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of good," ~2 Timothy 3:1-3
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Reply 25 - Posted by:
baxter1 10/23/2022 1:00:48 PM (No. 1312195)
I’ve had to let people go and at first it hurt but now I’m over it. I have a drunkard cousin that if she called after 2:00pm she was incoherent and screaming about Trump. Had a sister in law from Seattle visit recently and made is known she had no use for Trump or his supporters. I’ve been screamed at and called vile names. What is one to do with that? It’s simple, block them.
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