Two girls have been arrested in the death of a 12-year-old Lakeland girl who authorities said committed suicide after being bullied by several girls for nearly a year. Polk Sheriff Grady Judd said the girls, ages 14 and 12, faces charges of felony aggravated stalking that resulted in the Sept. 9 suicide of Rebecca Ann Sedwick, who jumped to her death from a tower at an abandoned concrete plant. They were arrested Monday night and released to their parents´ custody. On Tuesday, both of the girls had a first appearance before a judge, who released the 12-year-old to her parents
Comments: Children are capable of being unspeakably cruel to each other. I know this from first hand experience when I was 12-years-old. The treatment deeply affected the rest of my life. For parents to lose a child this way ... there are no words. May God bless the soul of this tormented girl, and her grieving parents.
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Rather Read, 10/16/2013 9:51:54 AM (No. 9567422)
One of my favorite books is Lord of the Flies. Teens and pre-teens can be horrid monsters and they need an adult to stand up and tell them that their behavior is not acceptable and to punish them for it. Sadly, too many parents abdicate their responsibility.
It pains me to admit that I bullied a kid in kindergarten. I made him cry and I have felt bad my entire life. I never did it again and even stood up for kids that were being bullied. Bullying is a dark side of our psyche.
Perhaps I am alone in thinking that we are well down the proverbial slippery slope. When statements by one can be said to cause suicide by another, the responsibility for all sorts of acts by others can be laid at the feet of those whose speech is deemed "harmful". And whatever happened to "sticks and stones ...".
By the way, I also endured bullying as a youngster. We were almost all either bully or bullyer (is that even a word?); it is vestigial in civilization from the pecking order in nature.
All that said, the children are cretins and their parents ghouls. Hope they don´t read this and get their feelings hurt.
So, now the kids are "Stalkers"? What on earth makes this law fit the crime? Is/was there a crime?
Kids can be mean to each other. It´s called society! You learn to be somebody or not. Now, all kids who establish leadership in the crowd will be called "stalkers", "bullies", "thugs".
Folks, this is tragic- no one needs to lose a kid. But, I blame every adult involved. The dead girl´s parents should have helped her cope and respond. The vicious girl´s parents should have been there to correct their kid´s behavior to channel it constructively. This is how society dies- by destroying the leaders first.
My oldest daughter was bullied starting in second grade. Two popular girls who told the other girls they couldn´t play with them if they played with my daughter. The teacher would send my daughter to the office on some ´errand´ and while gone, the teacher would talk to the class about not picking on other people. It ended when we moved to another town. It´s been 34 years now but if I were to see either one of those two girls walking in a cross walk, I´d run over them.
The girls actions are despicable but I have a problem with people saying that suicide is caused by others. Teens periodically kill themselves and their parents always look for someone else to blame. Parents should monitor their teens online activity. All of the parents bear some of the responsibility, the victim´s AND the bully girl´s.
Re #9 - it is very different now, with social media. Middle-school girls get their first cell phones and get on Facebook and it is 24/7. Used to be, hours spent at home were sanctuary for the unfortunate kids who got picked on in school. Not anymore. It really is parents´ responsibility to know what their children are doing online. It is a nationwide and worldwide problem that has taken a unique shape with the collision of childhood and communicative/interactive technology. Bullying and malicious gossip are only part of it. Sex-related activity is another.
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Donna M, 10/16/2013 10:53:57 AM (No. 9567572)
Where were the parents of the bullied girl? I bet they ignored all the signs and did not make a move to fix the situation on several levels.
Having been an overly bright but overweight teen, I was not only bullied by girls but kind of a social outcast till fairly late in my high school years. I defended other bullied kids publicly including to one jr. high teacher who was himself a bully (!) to me and others, and who was later tossed for harassing students (especially girls). My mother(widowed)who had a business to run and my older brother was a handful knew who was bullying me, told me to keep fighting back, encouraged me to lose weight (thank you Jean Nidetch), went to bat for me with the school and knew exactly who the parents were. I knew she would intervene if it got worse. That kind of support means so much and it may not stop the bullying, but gives you a means to cope.
Part of the problem is DELUDED parents; so often they claim afterward that the little perp "is a good" kid. Just like the mother of the useless snake who murdered my granddaughter--a stranger--at a party. Mom seemed to have "forgotten" that he was already on probation for a weapons violation, that he had not once gone to see his P.O. [until a week AFTER he killed Rashelle], that he was 19 and had worked only 3 months in his life, and that he, live-in baby mama and baby were freeloading living with his parents. She claimed he was "a good boy." Her "good boy" told friends after the shooting that he "couldn´t go to another party" because he "only [had] one bullet left," and her "good boy" has spent a great deal of his time in solitary; I suppose that´s for all his "good" behavior in prison.
For the last eight years since her murder, I´ve heard deluded parents claim "good" kid/child/perp in case after case after case after case.
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Donna M, 10/16/2013 11:04:43 AM (No. 9567599)
The parents did do something but it was totally ineffective in this social media age. A sit down with the parents of the harassing kids might have helped. Maybe it´s now all legal action and smashing of said cell phones. What the school should do is put every kid who ´liked´ the remark in a special class in a remote room, withdraw them from all school activities and hive them off for one year of Coventry. But that won´t happen.
BTW WHEN are the web developers on Lucianne.com going to find a way around the ads jamming IE and Chrome browsers so that it´s not only a nightmare to post but also it gunks up the browser with script and cookies? I have complained several times and get an anodyne answer.
I´m very saddened to hear what happened to #14´s granddaughter, and will add my fellow LDotter´s name to my prayer list, and will pray for her suffering to be mitigated. My closest friend´s (more like a brother to me) younger sister was murdered by an jealous ex-boyfriend twenty-one years ago. These aren´t the types of psychic wounds that comnpletely heal, and those who carry them inside have my profoundest sympathy.
I like the "what´s in the cat is in the kittens" line, so true.
And these bullies often times do not grow up. Last year, I was riding bikes with my young son who had just learned a few months previously to ride. A smallish dog came out of nowhere and charged my son´s bike, barking, and all my son wanted to do was avoid hitting him. He lost control and dumped his bike.
When a neighbor watching pointed to the house where the dog came from, I knocked on the door. A guy my age--50s, opened up and I explained to him that he needed to keep his dog in his yard so he doesn´t cause accidents or get hit. His response? Looks like my "fat son" doesn´t know how to ride his bike.
My response was fine, next time I am in a car and your little dog runs out in front of me, I won´t stop, but I will just run him over. At that point the guy squared off at me, ready to hit me. I calmly informed him that if he touched me, I would put him in the hospital, and I meant it. His wife had to intervene and tell her ghoulish husband to stay out of trouble.
See, there are morons everywhere. I guarantee you that guy was a bully as a kid, and thinks he can bully an adult, a mistake he almost really regretted.
I was bullied once as a child, on the playground by two boy classmates. By the next recess, the rest of the class got after those two fellows and they never bullied me, or anyone else, again. The problem was solved by the end of the day, with no parental intervention. BUT I doubt children today would stand up for another child against bullies. I am not sure why but the cruelty today (I have two daughters who are teachers, so I hear about it) is light years from what I can ever recall.
I heard this morning that the parents of the girl who posted she did it and didn´t give a bleep are now claiming that her facebook account was hacked!
I´m well into middle age now but I have never forgotten one poor girl about her age who rode the same school bus as I did though she went to a different school. Every single day that but ride was torture for that poor kid and I imagine it continued during the school day. I never could see why the pack of other girls hated her so. I can still see her crying in my mind´s eye like it was yesterday. I hope she made it through somehow. It must be so much worse now when they are all connected 24/7 and the quality of most parenting has declined so.
I am a strong believer in free speech no matter how offensive but I do think that this type of sustained, unrelenting, viscous verbal & written attacks plus the physical beatings mentioned in the article justify the charges in this case. With all the anti-bullying hoopla the schools push nowadays I wonder why the school did nothing. Perhaps if she had been gay they would have acted.
And the 30 snots who "liked" her "I don´t give a ****" comment should be publicly pulled out of thier classrooms and marched off for a little "sensitivity training" in front of thier "friends"
Being the smallest kid in Jr High, with a somewhat give-a-s*** attitude (which POed bullies no end), I got bullied more than once. I found that a fist to the nose of the bully (repeat as required) was the only solution to the problem. And no, I didn´t always win but the fights were usually broken up with minimal damage.
I found in most cases that it would shock them that you would fight back, they usually didn´t repeat the bullying.
Otherwise, one has to shut up and take it, which is the Liberal way.
Like OP, I was bullied. It does leave scars - for example, I have no desire to attend any class reunions. Unfortunately, even though I´ve lived all over the country in the many years since graduation, they still seem to be able to track me down. It doesn´t matter, because the invitations go straight from the mailbox to the trash can. Years ago, one member of the committee called my mother trying to track me down, and my mother (God bless her) said, "don´t bother to send her anything, she´s not interested."
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