An Australian mother has chosen to scar her daughter for life with what might be the nastiest eBay listing of all time After her daughter lied to her about hanging out at an older boy´s house, the eBay user "tsfe" decided to teach her a lesson by auctioning off the One Direction concert tickets she had previously purchased as a birthday gift. The blistering, shaming message tsfe wrote in the listing was discovered by the Reddit user canusich, and it´s sure to make your inner teenager want to disappear on the spot. Here it is:
Comments: It´s not the nastiest possible way...she did it the correct way. She actually followed through on the punishment she gave her. With that said, I think I would´ve searched for language just as firm without resorting to curse words. Regardless, it´s refreshing to see serious parenting in today´s post-modern murky world.
"tsfe" if you read lucianne.com know many of us support you and commend you for your actions with your daughter. To the author (and the like) of the thoughts "scarring" the daughter should see if their pants are on backwards. Their view of correctly raising a child is. Watch MTV and see how "your prevention of scarring" results.
I think she did the right thing. I tried to do right by my stepdaughters & be strict with them. I always explained how it was for their own good. I wasn´t being "meeaan" because I liked it, it was because I was not going to be walked all over when they were lying & sneaking around. I told them that they weren´t trying anything I hadn´t tried on my parents at their age. One girl did end up with a child, but later she did marry the father. Today, I am estranged from them because I tried to be tough on them. I wouldn´t do anything different & have no regrets. I feel it is their loss.
Great note! If more kids had caring parents like this, wow! One line reminds me of what Michael Reagan said of Jane Wyman. "We raise men, not babies!" Then, she made him earn money for his own bicycle! Kudos to all good parents!
I normally oppose public shaming of children, but this loving mom is great and highly entertaining. Thank goodness my girls are grown. I feel for my granddaughter´s (10) mom. Somehow we all survive if we care.
50 years ago my family was in the car on a long-awaited trip to Disneyland in Anaheim. My sister and I were being obnoxious jerks in the back seat, and our dad gave us a couple warnings that if we didn´t knock it off, he would turn the car around and drive home. Well, we didn´t knock it off and he did turn around and take us home.
Scratch a great day at Disneyland, and we both knew it was all our fault. We weren´t in trouble; it was Saturday and after we got home we could do whatever we usually did on a Saturday. We couldn´t go to Disneyland, that´s all.
That stuff works, man. Our dad knew what he was doing. Fifty years later and I still think about it.
Author aaron taube appears to be a bit of an ignorant cretin. A teenaged dingdong who gets preggers while sneaking around will definitely be "scarred for life," and that´s when sarcastic li´l aaron´s therapy will certainly come into play. Missing a meaningless concert by some ditzy boy band for being a lying little snot will likely do the dingdong a world of good, and protect her from being scarred for life.
Shut up, taube, until you actually know what you´re talking about.
I don´t know if this is public shaming, which I am totally against.
She did not mention the girl´s name or post a picture. But she was likely sure to have her daughter read the auction and be completely aware of why she did it...and she is likely pretty sure the daughter will share it with her friends who will get a virtual tongue lashing. That to me, is all good.
All that said, the inner cynic in me says it´s just a hoax to get publicity and drive the auction up!
Now, if this mother had done this really in public, or in a forum with pictures etc, I would call that pretty sick. But apparently, she did not.
I was called for jury duty for a case where a 12 year old Hispanic girl, was spanked for running around with 15 year old thugs. I was interviewed in-front of the other prospects. I said " if you think I am going to convict a father of trying to stop his underage daughter from getting pregnant by a bunch of ghetto thugs based on the State of Florida´s Department of Health and Welfare, you have another think coming". Not only was I excused, the entire jury pool was tainted!
I disagree with the mother and my fellow Lucianne posters when it comes to public shaming. Sell her ticket, ground her, take away her smart phone but don´t make it a public punishment. And if the mother plans to do any future public shaming, she might want to brush up on her grammar!
It´s called setting boundaries and the daughter and her "friends" were trying to tromp all over them. The Mom caught them and made a lesson out of it. Many kids think they are "oh so clever" and try to pull off all sorts of stuff, some of it quite bad. They need to called on it.
As to public shaming, it works. The message was, you misbehave and you lose out. You were trying little tricks and I am calling you out. Letting someone "hide" from exposure of their bad behavior is likely to result in a repetition of it. Public embarrassment usually ends the behavior.
Example: Child texting while driving gets ticket. Parent gets lawyer and kid gets off. Do you think the texting will stop? On the other hand, if kid gets a fine and loses their license they will learn quite a bit. You can be sure their friends know WHY they are not driving for a while. That´s pretty public but it might save their life in the future.
Some lessons are hard to learn and sometimes a public airing is a good thing.
I guess this makes only 2 ldotters who disagree with Mom´s little play for attention. Sell the tickets, punish her, ground her, etc., sure--that´s good parenting. Grandstanding like this? Seems as if, as one of the comments below the article pointed out, Mom is raising a daughter in her own image--a drama queen.
This illustrates bad parenting on so many levels, I don´t know where to begin.
Yes, boundaries should be set and consistently enforced. Judging by the content, the severity of the infraction and the punishment are probably reasonably proportioned. There is agreement there.
However, the fact that such a reaction is necessary indicates that previous smaller infractions were probably ignored or tolerated. If that was not the case, this action would not be a surprise to the daughter. Everything that the mother stated about being a parent and not a friend should have been personally communicated to her daughter throughout her lifetime by actions as well as words, not in a public forum. CONSISTENCY is imperative but appears to be lacking.
A few thoughts in no particular order:
Publicly criticizing her friends will only encourage her daughter defend them.
Publicly trying to humiliate her daughter will drive a wedge in their relationship that may never be removed.
Using a gift as a punishment tool is a poor choice and makes any future gifts suspect as there will be assumed strings attached.
Publicly punishing her daughter will tend to make the daughter reluctant to ever acknowledge her transgression. She´s been backed into a corner.
The mother demands love and respect. Sorry... those have to be earned. If you have to ask or demand them, you don´t have them.
The mother should act like an adult, not a vindictive foul-mouthed brat herself.
#21 -- There are no "true" gifts in our household. Our kids are made painfully aware that everything they own, actually belongs to mom and dad and they have it via our good graces. What can be given, can be taken away. It´s called losing privileges and going to a high priced concert is a privilege.
And, while I´m not keen on some of the language used by the mom -- it wasn´t a public shaming...she never outed any of the girls, but she made it known TO THEM that this was being done because of THEIR poor choices.
To those who object to "public shaming" of a badly behaved teenager, you need to understand that the child will lie to her friends about the situation. The mother who laid out the actual facts of the situation prevents the bad child from persisting in lies.
Will there be further conflict in that family? Guaranteed. But a public humiliation will help correct her child and will hopefully assist other families dealing with the same problems.
#26 -- Just to be clear, you think my comments in #23 are indicative of a clueless parent? Hoping you´re addressing a different poster.
By the way, "public humiliation" works. By your definition #25, my mother did this very thing to me in high school. I got busted at an underage party where alcohol was present. Unfortunately for me, who had NOT been drinking, I was hauled in anyway and my parents had to get from the sheriff´s office. MOST of my friends, who had been drinking, actually skipped out. My mother did not tell there parents, but she found every single one of them, one by one, and in my presence lambasted them and me and made us all feel about an inch tall.
It worked. None of them hated me or her, and we all minded our Ps & Qs after that.
#27 I could be wrong, but I believe #26 was probably intending to direct the post to my post #21.
When I post, I tend to understate the areas of agreement and focus on the contrary. The second paragraph in #21 was intended to indicate agreement with the idea of consequences. I think we are in closer agreement on parenting than you believe.
From post #27: "By your definition #25, my mother did this very thing to me in high school."
Unless pertinent details were left out, your mother did not do the same thing. I don´t believe she categorically insulted them nor did she do so in front of others (except her daughter) and she did so a format where the criticism was specific and personal. I don´t believe she gloated about how you were unable to fool her, nor bragged about how humorous she found them. If she had, I doubt if the conclusion of final sentence in post #27 would have come about.
This mother chose the consequences of HER daughter´s actions and is to be congratulated. This mother handled it the best way SHE could. Agree or disagree. Teenagers today need to be carefully raised. The times are not good for young people. Above all, no matter how good you think they are, trust but verify. If the kid says she/he is going to Bob´s house, call and verify that they actually are there. Sadly, lieing seems to be as easily done as eating a Big Mac by almost all teenagers.
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