Ari Schochet has grown so accustomed to being sent to jail for missing alimony payments that he goes into a routine. Before his family-court hearing, Schochet, 41, sticks on a nicotine patch to cope with jailhouse smoking bans, sends an “Ari Off the Grid” e-mail to friends and family, and scrawls key phone numbers in permanent ink on his forearm. The former Citadel Investment Group Inc. portfolio manager, who once earned $1 million a year, has been jailed for missing court-ordered payments...
I am a big critic of alimony, except in the case of an elderly, handicapped or ill spouse. No able-bodied man or woman should be allowed to sponge indefinitely off an ex. Yes, I know women who sacrificed to put the guy through law school, med school and so forth. In those cases, a lump sum settlement in the divorce decree should do the job.
The goal shouldn´t be to eliminate alimony altogether but to make it easier to modify if circumstances change. Many women still stay home to raise their children and would have a difficult time finding work if their husbands left them. I do think that if the woman leaves for reasons other than abuse, addiction or adultery, that should be taken into account in deciding whether to award alimony.
I have a friend who was regularly hauled into court by his ex-wife from a two-year marriage who kept demanding more and more money from him for child support even when he was unemployed. She succeeded in forcing him to pay child support through their daughter´s 21st birthday (in Massachusetts). During the whole period, the daughter was disrespectful and rude every time she saw her father. Even the court got sick of the ex when she tried to get the child support extended beyond the 21st birthday and told her "you need to go to the legislature for that...."
Are too many couples going on the honeymoon before the wedding prior to truly understanding their "significant other" or themselves? We have heard love is blind. So many are not 20/20 when they say I do. How many times have we asked the preparing bride or groom, "Are you sure..." People forget, the children need a good Mom and Dad to learn from to become a good Mom and Dad. We don´t just pass our DNA to our children.
I know a very wealthy couple 23 years married where the wife cheated on the husband. In the divorce she ended up with millions a year in alimony, houses in Greenwich, CT, Palm Beach, North Carolina, and Nantucket. Children were grown so child support not an issue. She cleaned him out. Did I mention she cheated on him? How the heck does that happen?
After a 23 year marriage, we separated. I asked for rehabilitative alimony, since I´d stayed home and homeschooled the kids, moving every couple of years as a Navy wife. I got NOTHING (child support, but nothing for me) The court bent over backward for him, when he didn´t show up in court, the judge held it all day for him, he never did show and my lawyer charged for all 7 hours of waiting. It was awful. He was awful. He accused me of adultery, no proof, just accusations. He had gone off the deep end, but the court seemed to believe in him. I do not know why. It was finally over, no divorce after all, when he committed suicide. No life insurance either, he´d let it lapse. I believe in rehabilitative alimony and also believe in taking into account changed circumstances.
So sorry #7. If he was active duty when this happened, perhaps you could file as the widow for service connected cause of death..you would have to prove that his job circumstances caused him to lose it. He obviously was mentally ill when he killed himself. It would give you Champus and a small DIC monthly payment. Also, help with higher education for your kids. You have one year to file this.
There is spousal support in Texas, another name for alimony. Some people should get alimony; some shouldn´t. The laws need to be made clearer as to when alimony is appropriate and when it should be modified.
Washington state is a community property state, so the assets are split in a divorce and no alimony just child support if needed. Several years ago, a neighbor´s husband walked out on her while she was pregnant with their second child. She received alimony for two years and just about everything else they owned. So in some cases justice does prevail.
What is so dangerous is that we have a "justice" system where very little justice happens. There are very few stories of divorces being decided equitably; involve children and the chances of a just solution plummet even further. Why are we inflicted with a corrupt idiocracy with lifetime appointments and what can we do about it?
#9, yes there is ´spousal support´ in Texas, but it is not easy to get. First, you have to have been married 10 years (some exceptions for abuse, etc.), you have to prove to the judge you have absolutely no skills to get a job, and can´t get such skills in the immediate future, and you have to continually inform the court what you are doing to try to get a job, and at the maximum it is limited to 3 years, unless there is a complete disability issue that existed at the time of the divorce. And the amount is limited to 20% of spouse´s income or $2800 per month, whichever is less (may be more now, but that was the amount as of a couple of years ago). Plus, if receiving spouse gets remarried or moves in with someone of the opposite sex, the support goes away.
My older sister sponged off her ex right thru college for the 2 kids. About a dozen years. During this time she had boyfriends and a job. She caused the divorce by cheating on him. She should not have received anything.
I´ve got a cousin who has been divorced from her abusive husband for some time & even though he earned MUCH more than she did, had affairs & even got himself hooked on drugs - the court ordered HER to pay him child support for their youngest who was still at home at the time. I´ve met the guy & he was a nut - a loud-mouthed, manipulative jerk. When she came to visit me, he called her constantly to harass her & her life has recently spun out of control. She´s now homeless & the courts won´t let up on her!
I was married for twenty years. my divorced crashed my life financially. I am now finished paying child support and everything else but the financial ruin it caused me will last for at least another year or so. I consider myself lucky. Many men lose everything and NEVER recover.
#13--the law has changed in Texas for divorces post- September 1, 2011. The maximum has been increased to $5,000 and the time limit has been increased to as long as 10 years depending on the length of the marriage. The amended law is actually a very good one because it is very specific about who is entitled to alimony, how much and how long. A big problem in divorces is the amount of discretion given to judges.
The abuse that domestic relations courts and judges impose on men is the reason why the rate of marriage has dropped off in American. The man get raped financially if he makes the mistake of getting married.
#5 - he had a crummy attorne. $1000 for a PI to follow the soon to be ex around for a week or two yields dividends. /per a divorce lawyer I know. He had me follow some woman around one night just because she didn´t know me. I was nice and didn´t charge him anything.
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