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Silent treatment is the best way
to deal with rude people
according to new study

Daily Mail [UK], by Staff

Original Article

Posted By:Attercliffe, 2/21/2013 5:36:10 AM

When it comes to rude people silence really is golden according to a new study. People who completely ignore those who are rude and offensive were found more mentally healthy than those who engage with them say researchers at Baruch College at City University of New York. In a study using nearly 120 people, the researchers asked people to engage in conversation with someone instructed to intentionally act highly likeable or highly offensive. The participants were then taken to another room to complete a second assignment which provided a score of their performance when finished.

Comments:
Conducted by New York university students. Hmmm. Days without speech . . .

Seriously, I have always found indifference to be very effective and mentally healthy. (The rude person is driven crazy by not knowing what his victim is thinking. Keeps him awake at night, teehee.)

  

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Reply 1 - Posted by: Janjan, 2/21/2013 5:42:23 AM     (No. 9188216)

Never argue with fools or children. Very good advice my Dad gave me long ago.


Reply 2 - Posted by: Mazeman, 2/21/2013 6:16:06 AM     (No. 9188257)

I usually only use two words. That´s *almost* silent...


   

 

  


 
Reply 3 - Posted by: hamrman, 2/21/2013 6:44:50 AM     (No. 9188291)

That´s great, however you can´t relly ignore Obama!


Reply 4 - Posted by: thelmalou, 2/21/2013 7:39:28 AM     (No. 9188388)

Ignoring such behavior is great for one´s peace of mind. Not to mention effective.


Reply 5 - Posted by: Bevan, 2/21/2013 9:41:09 AM     (No. 9188625)


Reply 6 - Posted by: navybrat, 2/21/2013 9:56:01 AM     (No. 9188657)

There are a lot of rude people out there.


Reply 7 - Posted by: Heil Liberals, 2/21/2013 10:07:02 AM     (No. 9188683)

But, but, but if you ignore rude people then you will hurt their f e e l i n g s! And we all know that we must never, ever hurt anyone´s f e e l i n g s. All behavior is to be tolerated since it adds to the diversity of our culture.


   

 

  


 
Reply 8 - Posted by: smcchk, 2/21/2013 10:12:48 AM     (No. 9188695)

I learned this long ago in dealing with several of my relatives. Bonus: rude people are usually looking for an emotional response. Not getting it makes them nuts!


Reply 9 - Posted by: lil dotty, 2/21/2013 10:30:58 AM     (No. 9188745)

This really does work. Try it for yourself--you will sleep better and cut out of your life all the ´chatter´ from those who really won´t shut up. Later you might even get an apology or a question such as "are you made at us" because they still haven´t figured it out.


Reply 10 - Posted by: Southernstorm, 2/21/2013 11:56:19 AM     (No. 9188922)

Depends on the situation. If it´s a relative, co-worker, or acquaintance just being rude, ignoring them may be adequate. However, as a female, I´ve learned that if I´m heckled either by verbal or physical gestures in public, you must handle the situation differently. The heckler is generally surrounded by friends he´s trying to impress. Therefore, the best way of handling that person is to have a number of pre-prepared responses and use them to turn the tables and embarrass him in front of his friends.


Reply 11 - Posted by: msjena, 2/21/2013 12:10:52 PM     (No. 9188951)

I call this freezing someone out. It is always better to ignore rudeness than to try to respond to it. The rude person will feel justified because he will think you are the rude one!


Reply 12 - Posted by: BigGeorgeTX, 2/21/2013 7:27:01 PM     (No. 9189762)

That´s what they count on, being unchallenged, much like the left. I used to silently ignore them, but now I call them out whenever I can. Much more satisfying. They are cowards when confronted and incredulous when their rudeness isn´t tolerated. Something that Republicans should learn from. Of course, it helps that I´m 6´3" and over 300 lbs.


   

 



 

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