Like everyone, I think and worry about the future and wonder where I’ll be in the final decade or so of my life. With at least another 20 years of work ahead of me, I don’t know whether I’ll be comfortably off or stony broke, and I hope that the good health I’ve enjoyed so far won’t desert me later on. One thing I’m pretty sure of, though, is that I’ll be on my own, with no spouse to look out for me or children to visit.
Comments: * Full title: The lonely legacy of my Sex And The City lifestyle: Claudia Connell gives a painfully honest account of how she came to be living alone in middle-age
She notes that even Carrie and Bridget eventually settled down but in real life she likely does not have the chance.
i don't understand how anyone could not foresee the consequences of living a selfish life past the point where youthful attractiveness helps to entice a man to marry you. When aging Boomer men start dying off, there will be millions of older women, very few younger people per capita to support them, and these younger people will be buried under huge government debt. It's going to be a perfect storm of consequences.
This is what happened to my old girlfriend and ex-fiance from the '60's. She chose the free-love lifestyle over a stable relationship and now is bitter old single lady devoid of family and true friends. I feel sorry for her.
fta: When it came to men, our attitude to them was the same as it was towards the latest must-have handbag: only the best would do, no compromises should be made, and even then it would be quickly tired of and cast aside. ~~~
And now you are exactly where you designed your life to end up. Old, alone, and unwanted and that is how you will die unless you make some serious changes in your attitude. Is it any shock men don't want you now?
No pity from my corner. I am one of those women you pitied, insulted, and belittled. I am one of those women who married in her 20's and had a child and gave up a career for love, companionship, and stability. No regrets... you can not say the same.
FTA: "Being single still has some incredible upsides — the biggest being the disposable income and the freedom to self-indulge."
How sad that in this entire article there is nothing to indicate what she has done for others. Instead, she has lived her life for herself. She thinks it might be a good thing to have someone to cook for. Didn't she ever have a friend or neighbor who needed that?
FTA: "I’d urge them to continue having the time of their life … but also, perhaps, to keep one eye on the lonely middle-age that is waiting to knock on their door."
It doesn't have to be that way. Instead of waiting for someone to knock on her door, why doesn't she knock on someone's door instead? You don't have to go far to find someone who needs a friend. And that's a good remedy for loneliness. Her selfishness will never cure that.
It's a problem. But probably the woman's arrogance is the overarching problem. She won't settle for less than a perfect man: and how perfect is she and what efforts does she make to be more perfect?
These leftoids like hildebeast clitton want to throw out all the old wisdom but they really haven't solved the problems anew. It's a sort of vacuous monovision: I know what I don't like so I'll just improvise with what feels good.
The more selfish the choices, the worst they tend to be in the long run.
She made a lot of selfish choices in her younger days. But, even at her age, there are a lot of eligible guys who would like to have a relationship with a woman like her. But old habits die hard, and she still wouldn't give those guys the time of day. Not handsome enough, don't make enough money, etc, etc, etc...
Claudia and her ilk sneered at us when we ''settled'' for imperfect mates, never realizing they themselves were imperfect as well. They cry into their child-free Louis Vuitton purse collection that the party is over, they are now past their sell-by date, and want their youth back so they can rectify their mistakes.
A perpetual holiday is a good working definition of hell ~ George Bernard Shaw
I know women like this too. Some are selfish and narcissistic, some aren't.
Part of the blame lies with our Leftist entertainment/media/advertiser complex that has pushed the "men (and fathers) are idiots -- who needs them?" meme for several decades now. "Murphy Brown" was just one of many manifestations in our pop culture media.
Even more to blame are the '60s feminists, especially Betty Friedan and her acolytes. Their motivation for destroying motherhood and the family came from their Marxist roots.
I'm sorry for the many women who were naive enough to got sucked in by these Leftists ... and then grew old and learned the truth too late.
Thank goodness this self-absorbed, selfish woman didn't reproduce. She's just mourning that she can't get any more "action" because all the eligible men her age, that meet her exacting standards, want women half her age.
The problem is, she wants to have it both ways. She wants to be in a relationship, but didn't pursue marriage. There is nothing wrong with being single if that is your choice or if it is your choice not to marry someone just for the sake of getting married. A bad marriage is worse than being single. But people have to acknowledge the choices they have made and live with them.
Too many women need to understand men aren't 'fixer-upers,' so stop with the bad boy nonsense. On the other hand selfish, ego centered people are always a pain. I'd say quit crying and get it in gear, but if she hasn't figured some of this out by now, probably not going to get a clue. First hint, spouses look out for each other, not just you.
As a journalist, she was mass produced in a cookie cutter factory and duly excreted with a fixed load of "values" which are actually corrosive, counter productive, destructive, even treasonous. Her "professional" efforts have furthered the degradation of western culture. No doubt she is now considering becoming a muzzie. The illogic continues...
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